It is said that the devil comes to kill, steal and destroy. There are no truer words spoken. And it’s up to us to safeguard our lives and shut the doors to keep him from walking through to cause chaos and destruction. I recommend a monthly check between couples, as well as ourselves.
Pick a date for each month to be consistent and take a look at your life individually, first. Is there anything you’re doing to open the door for the devil? If you have anything you are hiding from your spouse or significant other, you need to evaluate this and remedy the situation. Are you sneaking around anything? If so, stop. Hiding texts, emails, conversations with anyone of the opposite gender is definitely an open door for Satan to walk through and take hold of your relationship. Whether innocent or not – this is great avenue for him to cause doubt and dysfunction between you and your partner. Are you contributing what you need to in your relationship? Do you know your partner’s love language and are you loving them through their language and not your own? Are you fulfilling their needs? Are you taking time for yourself and giving the self care you need? Do you have your priorities in the correct order?
Once you’ve evaluated yourself, sit down with your partner and discuss your relationship. Ask your person to participate in a relationship check with you. Is there anything they lack from you? Anything they feel you need to improve? You each get a turn at this so it’s not like one person it being picked upon. The idea is to communicate your needs and work to fulfill each other in a way that shows mutual respect and love. It’s a time for each of you to feel heard and appreciated. A time to invest in each other and make sure the doors are shut to Satan.
We’re all human and will never be perfect so it’s important to give each other grace. Relationships are work and require constant attention. But the rewards are great when both parties are on the same page and giving equal energy. Of course, I’m an advocate for putting God in the center and always working to glorify Him. Regardless of your religious beliefs, this investment in your relationship will be better for both parties.
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